Are you choked…???

No, I am not asking this question only to the Delhites but to anyone and everyone on this planet who can read this.

No, I am not asking whether you are coughing or having a sore throat but I am asking whether you are unable to cry or have a persistent lump in the throat.

No, I am not asking whether your body is choked but I am asking whether your soul is choked.

I know its an aberrant thing to ask but in today’s world, where there is rarely anyone to honestly share your mind map, its become vital that at least someone asks this to you.

Physical suffocation can be understood and cured easily, thanks to the medical sciences, as compared to mental suffocation. Now, without any further ado, let me explain what I wanna talk about today. By mental suffocation, I mean state where all the negative emotions possible build their turf inside your mind, your heart and your soul. They begin surviving and feasting on your strength, your vigor, your drive to live and achieve something, your happiness and in a nutshell, your soul’s breath. And through frustration, anxiety, depression, and many more issues, your soul is clamoring for help to you, as only you can free your smothered soul and let it breathe again.

I have seen many people taking this very lightly, suggesting all the affected ones that its all  in their head and all this can be gone in blink of an eye if they want it enough. For these dimwits I have only one thing to say, next time when you see some Asthma patient struggling to breathe, just tell that person to think about a terminally ill person who has had it worse, or tell him to try harder to breathe properly and he will be ok or just tell that person to power up and face the suffocation without fleeing from it, because all this will help, right?

See, the thing is, its true that only you can help yourself to come out from these situations, but society, humans in general, need to understand that its very easy to talk but walking the talk is an entirely different ball game. Any person doesn’t enjoy being in such a miserable state and they all are fighting at their level. Just don’t make them feel as if they are not trying hard enough. Just be with them, appreciate their little efforts and encourage them positively. As I have shared with you all in one of my previous articles, sometimes, peace of mind is more desirable than piece of mind.

And now for all the brave-hearts who are fighting this suffocation, your ‘asthma-pump’ is sharing and caring. Sharing your feelings, your inner wounds with someone you trust, maybe your family and friends, or unfortunately, if that’s not possible, then sharing with strangers through writing, blogging, or any medium you wanna choose. The only thing that matters is, spitting out the venom which is corroding you to your core. And finally, caring about yourself. Love yourself sweeties. Pamper yourself. Meditate. Make yourself mentally stronger day-by-day. Start taking up hobbies. Do what you love doing in leisure time. Take medical help if required. Take care of your own. Only then people will give you the care you deserve. If you will not value yourself, no-one will. I know some situations are extremely dour and its a Herculean task to ‘care and share’ through them. But as it is always said, we have to play our life game with the set of cards given to us. We cant change them, but we can learn to make the best out of them and at the end win what we deserve. Its the only choice.

So readers, all I wanna say is, if you see someone suffering from mental suffocation, just help if you can, and if you can’t then at least don’t preach. Secondly, to all the warriors fighting this war, keep one thing in mind, you are your best possible friend, lover, family and savior. And you have all the strength to get out of it. Yes it is difficult and yes it will take time, but trust me, if you are with you, no one can defeat you. Be strong, stay healthy and spread love. 🙂 ❤

 

Uncertainity – A Devilish Angel !!!

We all have been through a phase where we can not take an important decision due to confusion about its future consequences. These moments of confusion appear like hell to us. Whether we plan to the very core, drawing every detailed flowchart possible, we are still not sure about the future. And this stressful ambiguity drastically affects our present. 

In times like these, we wish that we could know our future. That we could predict what was gonna happen and make choices according to it. That knowing about our destiny beforehand will lead us to success. But, ask this question to yourself, will knowing the fate in advance actually prove to be useful ? I don’t think so.

The Ultimate Divine Power which created the universe and us, its puppets, built the specific rules of past, present and future for some specific reasons. Past is meant to be forgotten as it is just a black hole of negativity and futile efforts which will suck you to the depth from which no ladder could help you to come back up. Present is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest, because every single moment passing is turning into past which can not be changed or altered or granted back. Future, well, it was meant for hoping for the best but simultaneously being prepared for the worst. 

Now, coming back to my point, this uncertain future, which frustrates us so much, is meant to be unknown. Just imagine, what if you knew what will your birthday surprise was gonna be? Will you be that excited when you receive it ?What if you knew about your exam results ? Will you put efforts and hardwork if you already knew you were going to fail or pass ? All the zeal, excitement and energy, which are the icing on the cake of life, will vanish. And no one likes a plain, tasteless cake. 

The very essence of this life is elation, the frenzy fuzzy feeling you have in your stomach before something important is going to happen. The uphill-battle which we fight to achieve our goals makes our existence worthwhile. If this uncertainity about the future is substracted from us, then we would be nothing but walking corpses on the face of earth with no purpose of living whatsoever.

So, I want to say to all my readers, that uncertainity may seem to be a devil, but its that angel who fills your life with enthusiasm, energy and fieriness which makes us keen to live the life king-size. Without this uncertainity, we will be just like a talking, walking, eating, sleeping zombie. And nobody wants to be that😉

Therfore enjoy this uncertainity, live your life to the fullest, be happy, spread love and stay blessed 😊

Part-time Strangers..??

Friendship is something that we cherish till our last breath. But sometimes it can be very knotty. 

A friend of mine was very distraught as one of her close friends told her that they can talk only personally, where no familiar faces or in our Indian language, ‘Pehchaan wale’, were to be seen. That ‘so-called’ friend had just offered her a ‘part-time friendship’, where no one could ever know that they even know each other, let alone talk. 

Now, what do you all think this led to. My friend, that lovely soul, started thinking that she was doing something wrong. Why would anyone want to hide such a beautiful and precious thing as friendship ? This thought captured her mind in a never-ending cobweb of guilt and ambiguity. 

And what do I feel ? Well if a person is not confident or strong enough to accept you in front of everyone as a important and close fella, then he or she is not worthy to be given the title of ‘friend’. Friendship is a very pristine and wonderful connection between two souls. There is no need to cloud or veil it. 

So, all my amigos out there, there is no such thing as part-time friends as that will obviously mean that you will also be part-time strangers, and true friends can never act like strangers, whatever the situation may be. Don’t tolerate such gibberish and rubbish babble from anyone. Respect yourself and your amity, spread love, be happy and stay blessed..!! ☺️☺️

Musings Of A Lonely Soul..!!!!

At the time of silent night,

When there is shower of moonlight,

You want a ear who will hear, 

But there is no-one in the sight.

When the lazy Sunday wraps it’s arms and gives you bail,

You let go of your pain and ail,

You want someone to stroll with in the calm lawn of reverie,

But your empty hand hits your heart like a nail.

Still, there is always a silver line,

Which gives a hope and shine,

Look for your friends inside you,

For they are the ones whom you can truly call ‘mine’.

You know yourself the best,

You know you can take care of the rest,

Don’t depend on anyone for your happiness,

For everyone is giving their own tests.

It’s not easy being alone in this chaos,

Where emotions are the one at loss,

You only hope winning the toss,

But at the end, you know that life is the boss.

Memories – The Mental Album

  
Hello to all my readers. Today I want all of us to take a trip to the moments which are gone, the stations which we have left since long.

Whenever we are alone, spending some ‘me’ time, or when we are in a crowd and see something or someone familiar, or at any second of 24/7, we sometimes get engulfed in the oceans of past – the memories. Whether good or bad, a slideshow of pictures from our mental album gets surfed by us. And ironically, we cry remembering the good times which will never come back and laugh at the ‘troubled me’ phase because we survived it. 

Just like many of us, I also sometimes find myself submerged in the waves of the past left behind. People, things and feelings which changed or vanished from my life. Among these, some changes are pleasurable, some are devastating, and sometimes the vanishing or end of these can also be good, but all of these experiences have one thing in common. They all taught me some of the very important lessons of life. All of them were educative. And the most important lessons that I learned from my past is that whatever happens, life goes on. 

While we said to someone that we can’t live without ‘them’, today many of us are surviving without many of ‘them’. We used to take some people for granted thinking they will never leave us and now many of them are not in our lives, and the worse part is, we couldn’t tell some of them how much they meant to us. Now we crave for just one chance to say to them that they are really important and we care for them. We thought that we will never get out of the troubles we are facing, but now many of us have already overcome that phase and living a successful life and the remaining have found the ways to get out of it. That’s the beauty of memories. Whether beautiful or ugly, they make us realise what we have achieved and what we have lost in our whole life in just few moments. They tell us that the train of life just stops for sometime at a particular station or phase, and then it moves on. It’s never stationary. But yes, that stoppage is very essential for all of us, as that is how we learn, we experience, we get matured and we improve. We learn that time will never stop for us and we should not take anything or anyone for granted, and just say and express what we feel at this exact moment when it is in our hands.

Today, I want to thank every people and situation that ever crossed my path of life, whether good or bad. The good ones I cherished, the bad ones, well I learned from them and improved. And also a big token of love to all those who are not in my life anymore and watching from the stars, I just want to say to them that I love them a lot and no one can replace them. They all will have a special place in my heart till the day I meet them at the stars itself.

So, today, I want to say to all my readers, whenever you find yourself in the deep forest of your memories, just look back at what you have achieved and what you have learned from the losses. And if you take this tour with this positive mindset, I assure you it will be one of the most beautiful trips you take. Spread love and stay blessed ☺️☺️