Posted in Anxiety, Experience, happiness, Improvement, Inner Battles, Life, Past, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology, Random Thoughts

Uncertainity – A Devilish Angel !!!

We all have been through a phase where we can not take an important decision due to confusion about its future consequences. These moments of confusion appear like hell to us. Whether we plan to the very core, drawing every detailed flowchart possible, we are still not sure about the future. And this stressful ambiguity drastically affects our present. 

In times like these, we wish that we could know our future. That we could predict what was gonna happen and make choices according to it. That knowing about our destiny beforehand will lead us to success. But, ask this question to yourself, will knowing the fate in advance actually prove to be useful ? I don’t think so.

The Ultimate Divine Power which created the universe and us, its puppets, built the specific rules of past, present and future for some specific reasons. Past is meant to be forgotten as it is just a black hole of negativity and futile efforts which will suck you to the depth from which no ladder could help you to come back up. Present is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest, because every single moment passing is turning into past which can not be changed or altered or granted back. Future, well, it was meant for hoping for the best but simultaneously being prepared for the worst. 

Now, coming back to my point, this uncertain future, which frustrates us so much, is meant to be unknown. Just imagine, what if you knew what will your birthday surprise was gonna be? Will you be that excited when you receive it ?What if you knew about your exam results ? Will you put efforts and hardwork if you already knew you were going to fail or pass ? All the zeal, excitement and energy, which are the icing on the cake of life, will vanish. And no one likes a plain, tasteless cake. 

The very essence of this life is elation, the frenzy fuzzy feeling you have in your stomach before something important is going to happen. The uphill-battle which we fight to achieve our goals makes our existence worthwhile. If this uncertainity about the future is substracted from us, then we would be nothing but walking corpses on the face of earth with no purpose of living whatsoever.

So, I want to say to all my readers, that uncertainity may seem to be a devil, but its that angel who fills your life with enthusiasm, energy and fieriness which makes us keen to live the life king-size. Without this uncertainity, we will be just like a talking, walking, eating, sleeping zombie. And nobody wants to be thatπŸ˜‰

Therfore enjoy this uncertainity, live your life to the fullest, be happy, spread love and stay blessed 😊

Posted in Experience, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology, Random Thoughts, Self-satisfaction, values

What Is Life ?

Every philosophical text starts with a question – what is life ? And those texts have an answer mirroring to the author’s experiences and perceptions.

According to me, the answer to this question can never be subjective, universal, exact truth. Just like when we see ourselves in the lake, we see our own reflection, similarly, we answer this very common but deep question according to what we experience, what we feel and what we believe.

Everyone says, life begins in the womb. I think, life begins when our babbles turn into meaningful words, when our feet start touching the ground, when we start loving and hating, and most importantly, when our senses start feeling every touch, gaze, voice and emotion possibly existing in the whole universe.

To a child born with a silver spoon in its mouth, life is a mesmerizing merry-land where the whole universe does not have a single percentage of negativity. To a child who was born and brought-up on the road, life is a struggle-filled cobweb, with an unexpected catastrophe at every turn which challenges and applies the law of ‘survival of the fittest’.

I have always heard people saying that childhood is the most simple and happy period in anyone’s existence, without any complications, only embedding fun and frolic which is very true and believable. But just think, for a moment, about a child of a drunkard man who regularly beats his wife and the helpless child can do nothing but watch his mother’s wounds with tears in his eyes. Does that childhood looks as beautiful as this period is labelled to be ?

The second most generalized statement our ears are habitual of hearing is that, marriage means end of freedom and ‘fun-filled’ independent life. This too in some cases is right. But again, think about a prostitute, who was forced into this ruthless business, but who managed to elope with her lover, and finally her life-partner, slowly but steadily, healed all her mental wounds with love and care. Now does this marriage sounds miserable to you ?

We often hear our parents or grandparents saying that arranged marriages are better than love marriages. In many situations they are correct because they know better. But does this also apply to the marital rape victim whose love was snatched from her just to bind her with a beast who doesn’t even know how to respect the consent of a woman ?

We, the youth, always perceive that our parents are orthodox or backwards, who can never understand our lifestyle and challenges. Now, I can not disagree to this too. But what about those parents who supported their child’s dreams and wants, even  by going against the social norms ? Does this sound like orthodoxy ?

I can go on and on proving many such conceptions very shallow. There are thousands of exceptions, whether positive or negative. Do you know what all this contemplation brought me to ? Well, it brought me to a conclusion. It made me understand that nothing in this life has an exact definition. No one in this whole damn world has the power to confine life in a few words. Everyone just frames a definition and portray their own mind and call it life.

So, I just want to say to all my readers that never judge anyone’s way of living. You don’t know what they are going through. You can not define any situation or scenario of this life. Nor you can just force your perception on somebody and expect them to agree with it. Life is beautiful without judgement and generalization. Offer a helping hand and caring heart to everyone but if you can’t, then atleast do not judge and mock. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed !! πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡ 

Posted in Experience, Friendship, Improvement, Life, loyalty, Past, Peace, Positivity, psychology, relationships, self-respect

Part-time Strangers..??

Friendship is something that we cherish till our last breath. But sometimes it can be very knotty. 

A friend of mine was very distraught as one of her close friends told her that they can talk only personally, where no familiar faces or in our Indian language, ‘Pehchaan wale’, were to be seen. That ‘so-called’ friend had just offered her a ‘part-time friendship’, where no one could ever know that they even know each other, let alone talk. 

Now, what do you all think this led to. My friend, that lovely soul, started thinking that she was doing something wrong. Why would anyone want to hide such a beautiful and precious thing as friendship ? This thought captured her mind in a never-ending cobweb of guilt and ambiguity. 

And what do I feel ? Well if a person is not confident or strong enough to accept you in front of everyone as a important and close fella, then he or she is not worthy to be given the title of ‘friend’. Friendship is a very pristine and wonderful connection between two souls. There is no need to cloud or veil it. 

So, all my amigos out there, there is no such thing as part-time friends as that will obviously mean that you will also be part-time strangers, and true friends can never act like strangers, whatever the situation may be. Don’t tolerate such gibberish and rubbish babble from anyone. Respect yourself and your amity, spread love, be happy and stay blessed..!! ☺️☺️

Posted in Celebrations, Friendship, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Love, Memories, Peace, Positivity, psychology, relationships, values

Restraining Belt, Seat Belt or Friendship Belt…???

Hello readers, first of all wishing everyone a belated Happy Friendship Day. May our friendship last forever and ever…!!! ☺️☺️

You all must be thinking about this title. And no, it’s not a fashion article about belts..πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. In fact it is about the precious relationship between parents and children. We all love our families and in the end our families are the ones who stand by our side when no one else does. Now, this ‘standing by our side’ situation is a perfect one. And I think we know that this perfection is not often seen in reality. Many a times, family bonds suffocate us if not handled with care. As I have already mentioned in one of my previous articles that generation gap has a strong bridge if both the sides truly try. 

Well, in our knowledge, restraining belts are used in hospitals and medical care centres to control or completely restrict the movements of patients who are in need of such precautions. Sometimes, parents act as a restraining belt, when they are so strict that they want to control even the way their child breathes. Now, I can completely understand that they do so because they think that their child ‘needs’ this precaution to survive ahead. No parent in the world wants to see their child suffering or in depression. But, unfortunately and unknowingly, they push their children in the deep well of desperation and distress. The hard-boiled or orthodox parents, due to their perception of the world and denial to change that perception with the dynamics of world, confine their children’s dreams, actions, and life according to their wish. They think that without their guidance their child will get lost in the path of life which is already full of hurdles. And maybe sometimes they are right too. But is it right to strangle your child’s mind and heart without even considering what he or she wants ? I think not. There are some parents who control their children to prove their authority and power over them and that’s just unfortunate, but life is full of exceptions and this is one of them. But is there a solution to this layered problem ? The answer is yes. The band-aid to this wound is communication and understanding, and obviously, from both the sides. Only proper communication can give us the ticket to cross and fill this gap of differences.

Now, we all know what’s a seat belt is. It is for our safety, a precaution, but not a smothering one. Some parents, who are not conservative, but are very protective of their children act like seat belt. There is no major problem in this but one. Seat belt does delimit our movements, if not suffocate us. Parents have to understand that they can not always protect their children from each and every situation in life, and children have to understand that their parents are not controlling them to prove any authority but to protect them from the harsh realities. Once in a blue moon, this protection can confine the children in the pupa of love and care and when it’s time to face the outside world, their delicate wings break at the first strike. I agree that prevention is better than cure, but can you learn to swim without going inside the waters. I think not. These parents are not orthodox, they just can’t see their children in any kind of difficulty, which shows their unconditional and vast love and children should understand this. But folks, you have to accept that sometimes love means letting go and giving space. The key to solve this problem too lies in two-way communication, understanding and love.

And finally, a friendship belt. The most priced possessions in childhood and the most cherished ones after growing up. I think the best relationship any two people can have is friendship, and if it is between parents and children, well the relationship becomes perfect. I reckon that there is not a perfect definition of a friend. Well, according to me, a friend is someone who loves and care for you unconditionally, is with you in every highs and lows, applaudes for you at your accomplishments and can slap you at your stupidity and wrongs, and most importantly, with whom you can share anything and everything without the fear of being judged. The best friend you can have will be the combination of a teacher, a guide, a companion in your childish stupidities and a shoulder to lean on at difficult times. Now imagine, children getting all this in their parents and parents getting all this in their children. This is the perfect situation I was talking about. Friendship doesn’t binds or confines us, it just holds our hands and guide us through the rough terrain of life. There are no judgements or strict rules to follow. Friends let you be who you are. They never try to change you, they just help you to cope up with this cruel world. And yes, the most important thing which has to be understood by the kids in this scenario, friends never leave or hate each other due to minor differences, instead, they sit and talk like mature individuals and find a way to walk together. 

So, all the readers and fellow bloggers, celebrate this friendship day with your parents and children. Be a friend to them and see your life prosper beacause the best band we can ever get is a friendship band. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed…!!☺️☺️

Posted in happiness, Improvement, Life, Love, Past, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology

Musings Of A Lonely Soul..!!!!

At the time of silent night,

When there is shower of moonlight,

You want a ear who will hear, 

But there is no-one in the sight.

When the lazy Sunday wraps it’s arms and gives you bail,

You let go of your pain and ail,

You want someone to stroll with in the calm lawn of reverie,

But your empty hand hits your heart like a nail.

Still, there is always a silver line,

Which gives a hope and shine,

Look for your friends inside you,

For they are the ones whom you can truly call ‘mine’.

You know yourself the best,

You know you can take care of the rest,

Don’t depend on anyone for your happiness,

For everyone is giving their own tests.

It’s not easy being alone in this chaos,

Where emotions are the one at loss,

You only hope winning the toss,

But at the end, you know that life is the boss.

Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Improvement, Inner Battles, Life, Personality, Positivity, psychology, self-respect, Self-satisfaction

The Worst But The Most Fruitful Battle…!!!!

Chaos, terror, dreadful shrieks, tears, losses, battles have never been easy. Even the victorious ones lose some irreplaceable things. But then everyone says that these losses are worth the win. Well, do you know which is the worst war ever fought ?? It is when the battleground is your own head and heart; and the opponent is you yourself..!!

According to me, nothing can be more draining than fighting with your inner-self. These fights can be over many issues; depression, anxiety, fear, failures and what not. And many a times, we end up losing the battle, destroying ourselves to the core. And you know what’s the pessimal part…it’s the fact that no one can see, hear or understand the havoc created in your head. When you see your goal and direction but you are unable to work because there is no zeal left; when you know you have to take a decision or an important risk but you can’t because you are too anxious about the result, that too, due to the past mistakes; when you fear the future to an extent that you petrify yourself in the present; when you are considered a failure by everyone and you lose the motivation to even try; in all these frantic situations, your tussle is with yourself. This combat can get very dirty, for you and for your near and dear ones. Fighting with yourself, for yourself is not at all easy, and it gets more complicated when you have minimal or no support. I can understand that every warrior combating in this duel is facing something very fierce and dire, which we can not witness. But it is truly said that you have to be your own hero. You have to fight for yourself, for everyone is fighting their own fights. Only you know what’s best for you, and only you can work for achieving that. The struggle is hard, very hard, but yes, it is worth the result.

You all must be wondering why have I termed this appalling scenario as fruitful. The reason is simple, when you come out as the champion, you have become a brave warrior, who fears none, and who is ready to face any and every struggle out there in this cruel world. The battle is not easy, but the result of the win is for a lifetime. When you overcome your weaknesses, your depression, your fears, you come out as a better person. A soul who has won a feud against itself can achieve everything in the life coming ahead. And trust me, this confidence can move mountains if you want. The best ladder anyone can get to reach their desired destination is self-confidence. When you know that you have the dedication to defeat the inner Satan of grief and despair, you will definitely gain the diligence and commitment to achieve anything you desire truly. Once the low spirits have been defeated, you can also handle any future attacks from them very easily.

So, I want to say to all my readers, the gallant warriors, that this world is full of negativity and struggles. Nothing precious has come without the spar for achieving it. I know this battle with yourself is very tough, but if you want to survive in this world, you have to fight and win. It is for your own good and only you can take the best care of yourself. Be strong, come out as a victor, spread love and stay blessed…!!  β˜ΊοΈβ˜ΊοΈ