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What Is Life ?

Every philosophical text starts with a question – what is life ? And those texts have an answer mirroring to the author’s experiences and perceptions.

According to me, the answer to this question can never be subjective, universal, exact truth. Just like when we see ourselves in the lake, we see our own reflection, similarly, we answer this very common but deep question according to what we experience, what we feel and what we believe.

Everyone says, life begins in the womb. I think, life begins when our babbles turn into meaningful words, when our feet start touching the ground, when we start loving and hating, and most importantly, when our senses start feeling every touch, gaze, voice and emotion possibly existing in the whole universe.

To a child born with a silver spoon in its mouth, life is a mesmerizing merry-land where the whole universe does not have a single percentage of negativity. To a child who was born and brought-up on the road, life is a struggle-filled cobweb, with an unexpected catastrophe at every turn which challenges and applies the law of ‘survival of the fittest’.

I have always heard people saying that childhood is the most simple and happy period in anyone’s existence, without any complications, only embedding fun and frolic which is very true and believable. But just think, for a moment, about a child of a drunkard man who regularly beats his wife and the helpless child can do nothing but watch his mother’s wounds with tears in his eyes. Does that childhood looks as beautiful as this period is labelled to be ?

The second most generalized statement our ears are habitual of hearing is that, marriage means end of freedom and ‘fun-filled’ independent life. This too in some cases is right. But again, think about a prostitute, who was forced into this ruthless business, but who managed to elope with her lover, and finally her life-partner, slowly but steadily, healed all her mental wounds with love and care. Now does this marriage sounds miserable to you ?

We often hear our parents or grandparents saying that arranged marriages are better than love marriages. In many situations they are correct because they know better. But does this also apply to the marital rape victim whose love was snatched from her just to bind her with a beast who doesn’t even know how to respect the consent of a woman ?

We, the youth, always perceive that our parents are orthodox or backwards, who can never understand our lifestyle and challenges. Now, I can not disagree to this too. But what about those parents who supported their child’s dreams and wants, even  by going against the social norms ? Does this sound like orthodoxy ?

I can go on and on proving many such conceptions very shallow. There are thousands of exceptions, whether positive or negative. Do you know what all this contemplation brought me to ? Well, it brought me to a conclusion. It made me understand that nothing in this life has an exact definition. No one in this whole damn world has the power to confine life in a few words. Everyone just frames a definition and portray their own mind and call it life.

So, I just want to say to all my readers that never judge anyone’s way of living. You don’t know what they are going through. You can not define any situation or scenario of this life. Nor you can just force your perception on somebody and expect them to agree with it. Life is beautiful without judgement and generalization. Offer a helping hand and caring heart to everyone but if you can’t, then atleast do not judge and mock. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed !! πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡ 

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ο»ΏAre you becoming an OBSCURIAL ???

Okay, I know some of you maybe don’t exactly understand the title right now, but trust me, it gets relevant.

So, peeps who have already watched Fanatstic Beasts And Where To Find Them, a movie which was a childhood revival for the Harry Potter generation, do know what I am talking about. For the muggles (who didn’t watch the movie πŸ˜‰πŸ˜), an obscurial is a young wizard or witch, who developed a dark magical force, known as an Obscurus, as a result of their magic being suppressed. When an obscurial reaches it emotional breaking point, they lose control, releasing their Obscurus, which destroys everything in its path, including the obscurial itself. 

Now, coming to non-magic, real world, I would say, obscurials do exist. There are many people among us who muffle their emotions and feelings in a cocoon which they form just to avoid confrontation and exposure. These deep desires are actually the true form or nature of that individual. And I should say this, such containment of sentiments is fatal, whether it is done willingly or under pressure. And as J. K. Rowling describes it, this bottling-up has a saturation point. After reaching this, the obscurus releases and explodes. 

Let me explain this in a simple (no-majπŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰) way. When we have to just suppress our passion, what we really like to do, who we truly are, due to peer pressure, parents’ support, society’s approval or any damn reason, it results in the formation of the obscurus in disguise of frustration, resentment and discouragement. And this devil grows and feeds on your’s as well as your surrounding’s positivity. This anger and annoyance not only affects you but also your near and dear ones and your relationship with them. All in all, your whole life becomes the puppet of this negativity. Similarly, when we try to curb the gloomy thoughts, like heart-break, hurt, tolerating the disrespect or any such emotion which tears us apart from the inside, the obscurus forms in the form of anxiety and depression. And we already know the results of its release.

These real life obscurials really need to be saved. They are feeding and nurturing their own end. We all are aware of the mental health problems and their adverse effects on the physical health. Then why to suppress all these feelings and get trapped in the negativity like this ? I know, sometimes, it’s not in our hand to do what we want, and in such cases, the answer lies in self-love and care. Meditation, relaxation and yoga can help us defeat these obscuruses living inside us. And when possible, just let go of everything and do what you love to do. Don’t tolerate anything that threatens your mental peace. After all, you can’t serve with an empty cup; when you are happy, only then can you spread happiness to your near and dear ones. 

So, all my readers, just give it a thought. If you are becoming an obscurial or you are watching someone becoming one, help. Help yourself and others. Because obscurials can only cause destruction and nothing else. Don’t kill yourself and hurt your loved ones with your own hands. I know life is hard, but keep one thing in mind, every cloud has a silver lining and every night is followed by the day. Don’t encase yourself in the cobweb of negativity. Love yourself and positivity will hug you and welcome you with open arms. Be happy, spread happiness and stay blessed !!! After all You Only Live Once. ☺️☺️❀️❀️

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The Grey Soul..!!


This is my attempt at the application Notegraphy.

Will be posting the “quote stuff” more.

Please share your views on how do you all like it.

P.S. Aaravi is my pen name..!! Please do comment your views ☺️☺️

Stay happy and stay blessed ☺️

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Laapata..!!

Hello readers…this is my attempt at Hindi poem writing…do have a look and share your views πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Mann laapata hona chahta hai,
Jheel ki lehron mein,
Raat ki meheron mein,
Bachpan ki chhuttiyon ki nehron mein.
Mann laapata hona chahta hai,
Baadlon ke garajne mein,
Boondon ke barasne mein,
Dhara ki pyaas bujhne mein.
Mann laapata hona chahta hai,
Sard hawaon mein,
Dhoop ki nigaahon mein,
Barf ki baahon mein.
Mann laapata hona chahta hai,
Patton ki sarsarahat mein,
Aandhi ki tez aahat mein,
Pedon ki ghabrahat mein.
Mann laapata hona chahta hai,
In sabhi khubsoorat palon mein,
Jeevan ke har mausam mein.
Mann laapata hona chahta hai.

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The Worst But The Most Fruitful Battle…!!!!

Chaos, terror, dreadful shrieks, tears, losses, battles have never been easy. Even the victorious ones lose some irreplaceable things. But then everyone says that these losses are worth the win. Well, do you know which is the worst war ever fought ?? It is when the battleground is your own head and heart; and the opponent is you yourself..!!

According to me, nothing can be more draining than fighting with your inner-self. These fights can be over many issues; depression, anxiety, fear, failures and what not. And many a times, we end up losing the battle, destroying ourselves to the core. And you know what’s the pessimal part…it’s the fact that no one can see, hear or understand the havoc created in your head. When you see your goal and direction but you are unable to work because there is no zeal left; when you know you have to take a decision or an important risk but you can’t because you are too anxious about the result, that too, due to the past mistakes; when you fear the future to an extent that you petrify yourself in the present; when you are considered a failure by everyone and you lose the motivation to even try; in all these frantic situations, your tussle is with yourself. This combat can get very dirty, for you and for your near and dear ones. Fighting with yourself, for yourself is not at all easy, and it gets more complicated when you have minimal or no support. I can understand that every warrior combating in this duel is facing something very fierce and dire, which we can not witness. But it is truly said that you have to be your own hero. You have to fight for yourself, for everyone is fighting their own fights. Only you know what’s best for you, and only you can work for achieving that. The struggle is hard, very hard, but yes, it is worth the result.

You all must be wondering why have I termed this appalling scenario as fruitful. The reason is simple, when you come out as the champion, you have become a brave warrior, who fears none, and who is ready to face any and every struggle out there in this cruel world. The battle is not easy, but the result of the win is for a lifetime. When you overcome your weaknesses, your depression, your fears, you come out as a better person. A soul who has won a feud against itself can achieve everything in the life coming ahead. And trust me, this confidence can move mountains if you want. The best ladder anyone can get to reach their desired destination is self-confidence. When you know that you have the dedication to defeat the inner Satan of grief and despair, you will definitely gain the diligence and commitment to achieve anything you desire truly. Once the low spirits have been defeated, you can also handle any future attacks from them very easily.

So, I want to say to all my readers, the gallant warriors, that this world is full of negativity and struggles. Nothing precious has come without the spar for achieving it. I know this battle with yourself is very tough, but if you want to survive in this world, you have to fight and win. It is for your own good and only you can take the best care of yourself. Be strong, come out as a victor, spread love and stay blessed…!!  β˜ΊοΈβ˜ΊοΈ

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Today’s Life = Temple Run !!

“Life is a race … if you don’t run fast … you will be like a broken andaa..!!”

On this beautiful Sunday morning, I was relaxing and thinking about my plans of the day. Suddenly, out of nowhere, I remembered the this above ‘epic’ dialogue from the movie ‘3 Idiots’. This lead me to start thinking about my place in this so-called ‘life-race’. But then I realized, mere thought of this made me feel inferior. All the class and batch toppers from my school and colleges started popping up in my head. All those friends who have already secured a job were smirking at me in my mind.

At that moment, I noticed, these thoughts were acting as fatal poison for my self-confidence. I shook them off and decided to just calm down and loosen up and enjoy my Sunday as I always do. Casually I opened my Facebook and there it was. My Facebook wall seemed as some sort of a ‘race-track’. Some were in a race to get more likes, some were in a race to show-off their luxurious lifestyle and some were in the race to boast about how successful they are. I feel, it is not wrong to share your happiness or success with your friends on social networks. I mean that’s why social networks were created in the first place, to stay connected, to share our lives with our near and dear ones. But yes, boasting and showing-off is something which, I feel, should be avoided.

And finally, it struck to me, today’s life has indeed become an endless race. Our daily routine is nothing different than “Temple Run”. We are running as fast as we can, in the direction which seems right at a particular moment, without thinking anything, just to collect as many coins as possible, without knowing whether they have anything to do with self-satisfaction but we are running anyway to get the acceptance of society, and with a killer gorilla of insecurity and fear of defeat behind us, ready to kill us the first chance it gets. Sounds exhausting, right? Well, majority of us are facing this endless run every single day of our life and are continuing to do so.

But today, I decided, that I will not be a part of this unceasing run. I decided that my competition is my ‘yesterday’s self’. I just have to do better than what I did yesterday. I promised to myself that I will never ever compare my life with anyone else, because that comparison will be the kick-start of this continuous run and I don’t want that. I am happy for anyone and everyone who is successful in their life and I hope they always remain like this. And I also know, that my time will also come and my efforts and hard-work will payoff someday. I will not run after money, I will run after self-satisfaction because that’s the key for long-lasting happiness. And last but not the least, I will be myself and will not think about what society thinks of me, because when I will be successful, this very same society will accept me as I am.

So, today, I suggest all my readers to give this a thought, whether this ‘Temple Run’ will make you happy in the long-run. Will it give you a sense of satisfaction when you are counting your last days of this life. If not, then live your life today the way you want it. Do what you love and don’t just blindly run in some race just because society thinks it right, when you know its not your race. Achieving mental peace is way greater than achieving millions and billions of rupees. These materialistic luxuries are no doubt a plus point, but they are not worth your self-satisfaction. Keep all this in mind, stay blessed and spread love πŸ™‚