Posted in Anxiety, Experience, happiness, Improvement, Inner Battles, Life, Past, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology, Random Thoughts

Uncertainity – A Devilish Angel !!!

We all have been through a phase where we can not take an important decision due to confusion about its future consequences. These moments of confusion appear like hell to us. Whether we plan to the very core, drawing every detailed flowchart possible, we are still not sure about the future. And this stressful ambiguity drastically affects our present. 

In times like these, we wish that we could know our future. That we could predict what was gonna happen and make choices according to it. That knowing about our destiny beforehand will lead us to success. But, ask this question to yourself, will knowing the fate in advance actually prove to be useful ? I don’t think so.

The Ultimate Divine Power which created the universe and us, its puppets, built the specific rules of past, present and future for some specific reasons. Past is meant to be forgotten as it is just a black hole of negativity and futile efforts which will suck you to the depth from which no ladder could help you to come back up. Present is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest, because every single moment passing is turning into past which can not be changed or altered or granted back. Future, well, it was meant for hoping for the best but simultaneously being prepared for the worst. 

Now, coming back to my point, this uncertain future, which frustrates us so much, is meant to be unknown. Just imagine, what if you knew what will your birthday surprise was gonna be? Will you be that excited when you receive it ?What if you knew about your exam results ? Will you put efforts and hardwork if you already knew you were going to fail or pass ? All the zeal, excitement and energy, which are the icing on the cake of life, will vanish. And no one likes a plain, tasteless cake. 

The very essence of this life is elation, the frenzy fuzzy feeling you have in your stomach before something important is going to happen. The uphill-battle which we fight to achieve our goals makes our existence worthwhile. If this uncertainity about the future is substracted from us, then we would be nothing but walking corpses on the face of earth with no purpose of living whatsoever.

So, I want to say to all my readers, that uncertainity may seem to be a devil, but its that angel who fills your life with enthusiasm, energy and fieriness which makes us keen to live the life king-size. Without this uncertainity, we will be just like a talking, walking, eating, sleeping zombie. And nobody wants to be that😉

Therfore enjoy this uncertainity, live your life to the fullest, be happy, spread love and stay blessed 😊

Posted in Experience, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology, Random Thoughts, Self-satisfaction, values

What Is Life ?

Every philosophical text starts with a question – what is life ? And those texts have an answer mirroring to the author’s experiences and perceptions.

According to me, the answer to this question can never be subjective, universal, exact truth. Just like when we see ourselves in the lake, we see our own reflection, similarly, we answer this very common but deep question according to what we experience, what we feel and what we believe.

Everyone says, life begins in the womb. I think, life begins when our babbles turn into meaningful words, when our feet start touching the ground, when we start loving and hating, and most importantly, when our senses start feeling every touch, gaze, voice and emotion possibly existing in the whole universe.

To a child born with a silver spoon in its mouth, life is a mesmerizing merry-land where the whole universe does not have a single percentage of negativity. To a child who was born and brought-up on the road, life is a struggle-filled cobweb, with an unexpected catastrophe at every turn which challenges and applies the law of ‘survival of the fittest’.

I have always heard people saying that childhood is the most simple and happy period in anyone’s existence, without any complications, only embedding fun and frolic which is very true and believable. But just think, for a moment, about a child of a drunkard man who regularly beats his wife and the helpless child can do nothing but watch his mother’s wounds with tears in his eyes. Does that childhood looks as beautiful as this period is labelled to be ?

The second most generalized statement our ears are habitual of hearing is that, marriage means end of freedom and ‘fun-filled’ independent life. This too in some cases is right. But again, think about a prostitute, who was forced into this ruthless business, but who managed to elope with her lover, and finally her life-partner, slowly but steadily, healed all her mental wounds with love and care. Now does this marriage sounds miserable to you ?

We often hear our parents or grandparents saying that arranged marriages are better than love marriages. In many situations they are correct because they know better. But does this also apply to the marital rape victim whose love was snatched from her just to bind her with a beast who doesn’t even know how to respect the consent of a woman ?

We, the youth, always perceive that our parents are orthodox or backwards, who can never understand our lifestyle and challenges. Now, I can not disagree to this too. But what about those parents who supported their child’s dreams and wants, even  by going against the social norms ? Does this sound like orthodoxy ?

I can go on and on proving many such conceptions very shallow. There are thousands of exceptions, whether positive or negative. Do you know what all this contemplation brought me to ? Well, it brought me to a conclusion. It made me understand that nothing in this life has an exact definition. No one in this whole damn world has the power to confine life in a few words. Everyone just frames a definition and portray their own mind and call it life.

So, I just want to say to all my readers that never judge anyone’s way of living. You don’t know what they are going through. You can not define any situation or scenario of this life. Nor you can just force your perception on somebody and expect them to agree with it. Life is beautiful without judgement and generalization. Offer a helping hand and caring heart to everyone but if you can’t, then atleast do not judge and mock. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed !! 😊😊😘😘😇😇 

Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Improvement, Kindness, Personality, Self-satisfaction, Uncategorized

Are you becoming an OBSCURIAL ???

Okay, I know some of you maybe don’t exactly understand the title right now, but trust me, it gets relevant.

So, peeps who have already watched Fanatstic Beasts And Where To Find Them, a movie which was a childhood revival for the Harry Potter generation, do know what I am talking about. For the muggles (who didn’t watch the movie 😉😁), an obscurial is a young wizard or witch, who developed a dark magical force, known as an Obscurus, as a result of their magic being suppressed. When an obscurial reaches it emotional breaking point, they lose control, releasing their Obscurus, which destroys everything in its path, including the obscurial itself. 

Now, coming to non-magic, real world, I would say, obscurials do exist. There are many people among us who muffle their emotions and feelings in a cocoon which they form just to avoid confrontation and exposure. These deep desires are actually the true form or nature of that individual. And I should say this, such containment of sentiments is fatal, whether it is done willingly or under pressure. And as J. K. Rowling describes it, this bottling-up has a saturation point. After reaching this, the obscurus releases and explodes. 

Let me explain this in a simple (no-maj😉😉) way. When we have to just suppress our passion, what we really like to do, who we truly are, due to peer pressure, parents’ support, society’s approval or any damn reason, it results in the formation of the obscurus in disguise of frustration, resentment and discouragement. And this devil grows and feeds on your’s as well as your surrounding’s positivity. This anger and annoyance not only affects you but also your near and dear ones and your relationship with them. All in all, your whole life becomes the puppet of this negativity. Similarly, when we try to curb the gloomy thoughts, like heart-break, hurt, tolerating the disrespect or any such emotion which tears us apart from the inside, the obscurus forms in the form of anxiety and depression. And we already know the results of its release.

These real life obscurials really need to be saved. They are feeding and nurturing their own end. We all are aware of the mental health problems and their adverse effects on the physical health. Then why to suppress all these feelings and get trapped in the negativity like this ? I know, sometimes, it’s not in our hand to do what we want, and in such cases, the answer lies in self-love and care. Meditation, relaxation and yoga can help us defeat these obscuruses living inside us. And when possible, just let go of everything and do what you love to do. Don’t tolerate anything that threatens your mental peace. After all, you can’t serve with an empty cup; when you are happy, only then can you spread happiness to your near and dear ones. 

So, all my readers, just give it a thought. If you are becoming an obscurial or you are watching someone becoming one, help. Help yourself and others. Because obscurials can only cause destruction and nothing else. Don’t kill yourself and hurt your loved ones with your own hands. I know life is hard, but keep one thing in mind, every cloud has a silver lining and every night is followed by the day. Don’t encase yourself in the cobweb of negativity. Love yourself and positivity will hug you and welcome you with open arms. Be happy, spread happiness and stay blessed !!! After all You Only Live Once. ☺️☺️❤️❤️

Posted in Experience, happiness, Improvement, Inner Battles, Kindness, Life, Love, Past, Peace, Personality, Positivity, Random Thoughts, self-respect, Self-satisfaction

The Grey Soul..!!


This is my attempt at the application Notegraphy.

Will be posting the “quote stuff” more.

Please share your views on how do you all like it.

P.S. Aaravi is my pen name..!! Please do comment your views ☺️☺️

Stay happy and stay blessed ☺️

Posted in happiness, Improvement, Life, Love, Past, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology

Musings Of A Lonely Soul..!!!!

At the time of silent night,

When there is shower of moonlight,

You want a ear who will hear, 

But there is no-one in the sight.

When the lazy Sunday wraps it’s arms and gives you bail,

You let go of your pain and ail,

You want someone to stroll with in the calm lawn of reverie,

But your empty hand hits your heart like a nail.

Still, there is always a silver line,

Which gives a hope and shine,

Look for your friends inside you,

For they are the ones whom you can truly call ‘mine’.

You know yourself the best,

You know you can take care of the rest,

Don’t depend on anyone for your happiness,

For everyone is giving their own tests.

It’s not easy being alone in this chaos,

Where emotions are the one at loss,

You only hope winning the toss,

But at the end, you know that life is the boss.

Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Improvement, Inner Battles, Life, Personality, Positivity, psychology, self-respect, Self-satisfaction

The Worst But The Most Fruitful Battle…!!!!

Chaos, terror, dreadful shrieks, tears, losses, battles have never been easy. Even the victorious ones lose some irreplaceable things. But then everyone says that these losses are worth the win. Well, do you know which is the worst war ever fought ?? It is when the battleground is your own head and heart; and the opponent is you yourself..!!

According to me, nothing can be more draining than fighting with your inner-self. These fights can be over many issues; depression, anxiety, fear, failures and what not. And many a times, we end up losing the battle, destroying ourselves to the core. And you know what’s the pessimal part…it’s the fact that no one can see, hear or understand the havoc created in your head. When you see your goal and direction but you are unable to work because there is no zeal left; when you know you have to take a decision or an important risk but you can’t because you are too anxious about the result, that too, due to the past mistakes; when you fear the future to an extent that you petrify yourself in the present; when you are considered a failure by everyone and you lose the motivation to even try; in all these frantic situations, your tussle is with yourself. This combat can get very dirty, for you and for your near and dear ones. Fighting with yourself, for yourself is not at all easy, and it gets more complicated when you have minimal or no support. I can understand that every warrior combating in this duel is facing something very fierce and dire, which we can not witness. But it is truly said that you have to be your own hero. You have to fight for yourself, for everyone is fighting their own fights. Only you know what’s best for you, and only you can work for achieving that. The struggle is hard, very hard, but yes, it is worth the result.

You all must be wondering why have I termed this appalling scenario as fruitful. The reason is simple, when you come out as the champion, you have become a brave warrior, who fears none, and who is ready to face any and every struggle out there in this cruel world. The battle is not easy, but the result of the win is for a lifetime. When you overcome your weaknesses, your depression, your fears, you come out as a better person. A soul who has won a feud against itself can achieve everything in the life coming ahead. And trust me, this confidence can move mountains if you want. The best ladder anyone can get to reach their desired destination is self-confidence. When you know that you have the dedication to defeat the inner Satan of grief and despair, you will definitely gain the diligence and commitment to achieve anything you desire truly. Once the low spirits have been defeated, you can also handle any future attacks from them very easily.

So, I want to say to all my readers, the gallant warriors, that this world is full of negativity and struggles. Nothing precious has come without the spar for achieving it. I know this battle with yourself is very tough, but if you want to survive in this world, you have to fight and win. It is for your own good and only you can take the best care of yourself. Be strong, come out as a victor, spread love and stay blessed…!!  â˜ºï¸â˜ºï¸

Posted in Beauty, Love, loyalty, Personality, psychology, relationships, self-respect, values

Your Date With Yourself !! 

First of all really sorry for not writing anything on the ‘so-called’ official day of love – Valentines Day. Wishing you all a belated Valentine’s Day. What I feel is every day is a Valentine’s Day if you are with ‘The One’. But those who are still searching for their someone special and also those who are madly in love, have you all ever thought on going on a date with yourself, falling in love with yourself ?
I personally believe, before falling for anyone else, we should all fall in love with ourselves. We can’t give something to someone if we don’t have it in us. That also goes for love. Now, we all are still confused about the pieces of words that can completely fit in the puzzle called love. Many people have many different ideas of what love exactly is and according to me love is care, understanding, honesty, friendship and acceptance. Therefore, what I want to say is, care about yourself, understand and accept yourself completely, always be honest with yourself and make you, your best friend. And my experience says, when you are 100% satisfied in your skin, you feel the sense of completeness. And that makes your love for someone else unconditional. You are not dependent on someone else to praise you, to support you, to understand you because, in the first place, you are there for yourself.

Now, how to go on a date with yourself. Well, just spend some quiet, alone time in a place you find serene. Connect with your soul and listen to that little inner voice that is always there with you. Do what you love the most and drown in the moment. And I promise you, this date will become one of the most beautiful and lovely experiences of your life.

When you are madly in love with yourself, then you can easily perform a very difficult task which is to love without expectations. I know, loving someone obviously seeds some expectations, but at least we will not hate ourselves when something goes wrong. We will know whether we were at fault or not because loving yourself also involves knowing yourself. If we will know and accept our wrongs, we will be able to rectify those, and if we know we are right, well, then, we can accept the situation and move on without any guilt in our heart.

So, all I want to say to my beautiful and handsome readers is, fall madly in love with yourself, date yourself. If you can love yourself for what you are,no one in the world can put you down. Your love for that ‘special someone’ will become unconditional which is the most beautiful trinket of love. Love yourself, spread love and stay blessed !! ☺️☺️