Posted in Experience, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology, Random Thoughts, Self-satisfaction, values

What Is Life ?

Every philosophical text starts with a question – what is life ? And those texts have an answer mirroring to the author’s experiences and perceptions.

According to me, the answer to this question can never be subjective, universal, exact truth. Just like when we see ourselves in the lake, we see our own reflection, similarly, we answer this very common but deep question according to what we experience, what we feel and what we believe.

Everyone says, life begins in the womb. I think, life begins when our babbles turn into meaningful words, when our feet start touching the ground, when we start loving and hating, and most importantly, when our senses start feeling every touch, gaze, voice and emotion possibly existing in the whole universe.

To a child born with a silver spoon in its mouth, life is a mesmerizing merry-land where the whole universe does not have a single percentage of negativity. To a child who was born and brought-up on the road, life is a struggle-filled cobweb, with an unexpected catastrophe at every turn which challenges and applies the law of ‘survival of the fittest’.

I have always heard people saying that childhood is the most simple and happy period in anyone’s existence, without any complications, only embedding fun and frolic which is very true and believable. But just think, for a moment, about a child of a drunkard man who regularly beats his wife and the helpless child can do nothing but watch his mother’s wounds with tears in his eyes. Does that childhood looks as beautiful as this period is labelled to be ?

The second most generalized statement our ears are habitual of hearing is that, marriage means end of freedom and ‘fun-filled’ independent life. This too in some cases is right. But again, think about a prostitute, who was forced into this ruthless business, but who managed to elope with her lover, and finally her life-partner, slowly but steadily, healed all her mental wounds with love and care. Now does this marriage sounds miserable to you ?

We often hear our parents or grandparents saying that arranged marriages are better than love marriages. In many situations they are correct because they know better. But does this also apply to the marital rape victim whose love was snatched from her just to bind her with a beast who doesn’t even know how to respect the consent of a woman ?

We, the youth, always perceive that our parents are orthodox or backwards, who can never understand our lifestyle and challenges. Now, I can not disagree to this too. But what about those parents who supported their child’s dreams and wants, even  by going against the social norms ? Does this sound like orthodoxy ?

I can go on and on proving many such conceptions very shallow. There are thousands of exceptions, whether positive or negative. Do you know what all this contemplation brought me to ? Well, it brought me to a conclusion. It made me understand that nothing in this life has an exact definition. No one in this whole damn world has the power to confine life in a few words. Everyone just frames a definition and portray their own mind and call it life.

So, I just want to say to all my readers that never judge anyone’s way of living. You don’t know what they are going through. You can not define any situation or scenario of this life. Nor you can just force your perception on somebody and expect them to agree with it. Life is beautiful without judgement and generalization. Offer a helping hand and caring heart to everyone but if you can’t, then atleast do not judge and mock. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed !! πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡ 

Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Improvement, Kindness, Personality, Self-satisfaction, Uncategorized

ο»ΏAre you becoming an OBSCURIAL ???

Okay, I know some of you maybe don’t exactly understand the title right now, but trust me, it gets relevant.

So, peeps who have already watched Fanatstic Beasts And Where To Find Them, a movie which was a childhood revival for the Harry Potter generation, do know what I am talking about. For the muggles (who didn’t watch the movie πŸ˜‰πŸ˜), an obscurial is a young wizard or witch, who developed a dark magical force, known as an Obscurus, as a result of their magic being suppressed. When an obscurial reaches it emotional breaking point, they lose control, releasing their Obscurus, which destroys everything in its path, including the obscurial itself. 

Now, coming to non-magic, real world, I would say, obscurials do exist. There are many people among us who muffle their emotions and feelings in a cocoon which they form just to avoid confrontation and exposure. These deep desires are actually the true form or nature of that individual. And I should say this, such containment of sentiments is fatal, whether it is done willingly or under pressure. And as J. K. Rowling describes it, this bottling-up has a saturation point. After reaching this, the obscurus releases and explodes. 

Let me explain this in a simple (no-majπŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰) way. When we have to just suppress our passion, what we really like to do, who we truly are, due to peer pressure, parents’ support, society’s approval or any damn reason, it results in the formation of the obscurus in disguise of frustration, resentment and discouragement. And this devil grows and feeds on your’s as well as your surrounding’s positivity. This anger and annoyance not only affects you but also your near and dear ones and your relationship with them. All in all, your whole life becomes the puppet of this negativity. Similarly, when we try to curb the gloomy thoughts, like heart-break, hurt, tolerating the disrespect or any such emotion which tears us apart from the inside, the obscurus forms in the form of anxiety and depression. And we already know the results of its release.

These real life obscurials really need to be saved. They are feeding and nurturing their own end. We all are aware of the mental health problems and their adverse effects on the physical health. Then why to suppress all these feelings and get trapped in the negativity like this ? I know, sometimes, it’s not in our hand to do what we want, and in such cases, the answer lies in self-love and care. Meditation, relaxation and yoga can help us defeat these obscuruses living inside us. And when possible, just let go of everything and do what you love to do. Don’t tolerate anything that threatens your mental peace. After all, you can’t serve with an empty cup; when you are happy, only then can you spread happiness to your near and dear ones. 

So, all my readers, just give it a thought. If you are becoming an obscurial or you are watching someone becoming one, help. Help yourself and others. Because obscurials can only cause destruction and nothing else. Don’t kill yourself and hurt your loved ones with your own hands. I know life is hard, but keep one thing in mind, every cloud has a silver lining and every night is followed by the day. Don’t encase yourself in the cobweb of negativity. Love yourself and positivity will hug you and welcome you with open arms. Be happy, spread happiness and stay blessed !!! After all You Only Live Once. ☺️☺️❀️❀️

Posted in Experience, happiness, Improvement, Inner Battles, Kindness, Life, Love, Past, Peace, Personality, Positivity, Random Thoughts, self-respect, Self-satisfaction

The Grey Soul..!!


This is my attempt at the application Notegraphy.

Will be posting the “quote stuff” more.

Please share your views on how do you all like it.

P.S. Aaravi is my pen name..!! Please do comment your views ☺️☺️

Stay happy and stay blessed ☺️

Posted in Celebrations, Friendship, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Love, Memories, Peace, Positivity, psychology, relationships, values

Restraining Belt, Seat Belt or Friendship Belt…???

Hello readers, first of all wishing everyone a belated Happy Friendship Day. May our friendship last forever and ever…!!! ☺️☺️

You all must be thinking about this title. And no, it’s not a fashion article about belts..πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. In fact it is about the precious relationship between parents and children. We all love our families and in the end our families are the ones who stand by our side when no one else does. Now, this ‘standing by our side’ situation is a perfect one. And I think we know that this perfection is not often seen in reality. Many a times, family bonds suffocate us if not handled with care. As I have already mentioned in one of my previous articles that generation gap has a strong bridge if both the sides truly try. 

Well, in our knowledge, restraining belts are used in hospitals and medical care centres to control or completely restrict the movements of patients who are in need of such precautions. Sometimes, parents act as a restraining belt, when they are so strict that they want to control even the way their child breathes. Now, I can completely understand that they do so because they think that their child ‘needs’ this precaution to survive ahead. No parent in the world wants to see their child suffering or in depression. But, unfortunately and unknowingly, they push their children in the deep well of desperation and distress. The hard-boiled or orthodox parents, due to their perception of the world and denial to change that perception with the dynamics of world, confine their children’s dreams, actions, and life according to their wish. They think that without their guidance their child will get lost in the path of life which is already full of hurdles. And maybe sometimes they are right too. But is it right to strangle your child’s mind and heart without even considering what he or she wants ? I think not. There are some parents who control their children to prove their authority and power over them and that’s just unfortunate, but life is full of exceptions and this is one of them. But is there a solution to this layered problem ? The answer is yes. The band-aid to this wound is communication and understanding, and obviously, from both the sides. Only proper communication can give us the ticket to cross and fill this gap of differences.

Now, we all know what’s a seat belt is. It is for our safety, a precaution, but not a smothering one. Some parents, who are not conservative, but are very protective of their children act like seat belt. There is no major problem in this but one. Seat belt does delimit our movements, if not suffocate us. Parents have to understand that they can not always protect their children from each and every situation in life, and children have to understand that their parents are not controlling them to prove any authority but to protect them from the harsh realities. Once in a blue moon, this protection can confine the children in the pupa of love and care and when it’s time to face the outside world, their delicate wings break at the first strike. I agree that prevention is better than cure, but can you learn to swim without going inside the waters. I think not. These parents are not orthodox, they just can’t see their children in any kind of difficulty, which shows their unconditional and vast love and children should understand this. But folks, you have to accept that sometimes love means letting go and giving space. The key to solve this problem too lies in two-way communication, understanding and love.

And finally, a friendship belt. The most priced possessions in childhood and the most cherished ones after growing up. I think the best relationship any two people can have is friendship, and if it is between parents and children, well the relationship becomes perfect. I reckon that there is not a perfect definition of a friend. Well, according to me, a friend is someone who loves and care for you unconditionally, is with you in every highs and lows, applaudes for you at your accomplishments and can slap you at your stupidity and wrongs, and most importantly, with whom you can share anything and everything without the fear of being judged. The best friend you can have will be the combination of a teacher, a guide, a companion in your childish stupidities and a shoulder to lean on at difficult times. Now imagine, children getting all this in their parents and parents getting all this in their children. This is the perfect situation I was talking about. Friendship doesn’t binds or confines us, it just holds our hands and guide us through the rough terrain of life. There are no judgements or strict rules to follow. Friends let you be who you are. They never try to change you, they just help you to cope up with this cruel world. And yes, the most important thing which has to be understood by the kids in this scenario, friends never leave or hate each other due to minor differences, instead, they sit and talk like mature individuals and find a way to walk together. 

So, all the readers and fellow bloggers, celebrate this friendship day with your parents and children. Be a friend to them and see your life prosper beacause the best band we can ever get is a friendship band. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed…!!☺️☺️

Posted in Celebrations, Kindness, Love, Mothers, Positivity, relationships, values

Fathers’ Day – Is It Only For Fathers ???

First of all, wishing all my readers a very Happy Fathers’ Day. May we have the strength and blessings to fulfill all their dreams and cherish their oldage as they cherished our childhood.
Now, all of you must be thinking what’s with the title. Dont worry, I will break it to you.
Here is to celebrating this lovely occassion for all the mothers out there who are playing both the roles of a strong dad as well as a caring mum perfectly. Yes, you guessed it right, I am talking about all the single mothers across the world.
I just want to say something to the wonderful children of these strong and proud mothers. Guys, I know, no one can ever replace having the support, the confidence and the strength of a strong pillar beside you disguised as a father. But let me tell you something, your mum, is performing double role in your life’s play, just to fill that empty space, just to see you happy and satisfied. And to perform this role, she has to be strict yet understanding, strong yet caring, in a nutshell, hard yet soft. And this people, is not an easy task. She is doing everything she can so that you dont feel that something is missing from your life. So don’t you think that this effort should be given some recognition. I feel there is no need to answer this now.
Also, to the beings who are actually very lucky to have both your mum and dad in your life, please support the single motherhood. Don’t just stand there and criticize. You really dont know what these ladies are actually going through. If you can’t support then atleast don’t discourage. They are more strong then you see. Just put yourselves in their place and your heart will know how to react.

So, today I am requesting to all my readers, wish Happy Fathers’ Day to all the legendary ladies, our single mothers all over the world. Children, if you are lucky to have such a strong and loving mother-father duo played by your mum, make her feel special today. Make her smile like she has been making you smile all her life. This day is also for her.
Stay happy everyone and stay blessed !! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Posted in Kindness, Love, Personality, psychology, relationships, self-respect

Villains at present, Heroes for your future !!!

In today’s materialistic world, people are suffering from more mental injuries than physical. Road accidents are taking less lives than depression and heart attacks. Why is it so ?? Have we ever thought that each second we are mentally disturbed, we are damaging a major portion of ourselves. I know, many people hurt us, betray us, leave us when we need them the most, or simply show and prove their enemity towards us. These people kill our mental peace. They slay our happiness. And nowadays, being so emotional that we get affected by all this, is, many a times, a big disadvantage. 

What I feel is, these people around us, who destroy us mentally, seem to us as the biggest villains of our lifetimes, but actually they themselves end up proving to be the heroes for our future. It is because these people make you emotionally and mentally strong. They help you gain wisdom and maturity. Due to their foul deeds, we learn the importance of good deeds and how to deal with the bad ones. These villains act like a sandpaper, they end up polishing us and making us shine brighter than ever in the future.

Now you all tell me, the people because of whom we become an overall better person should be termed as heroes or villains ?? I think we all now can think of the right term!! πŸ˜‰

So, all my readers, love the people who love you, but also value those who hurt you because they are the ones who will help you become stronger. And as we know, the stronger we are, the better our lives will be. So learn from your past, become better in present and get ready for the future. Spread love and stay blessed !! πŸ™‚

Posted in Celebrations, Christmas, Holidays, Kindness, New Year

Merry Christmas!!!! Is it ‘merry’ for all…???

First of all, I would like to wish my all readers, a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year..!!!

Christmas, a festival of joy, happiness, celebrations and most importantly, Santa Claus and gifts. After all, it’s the birthday bash of the Holy Jesus Christ, so, in our language, ‘party and gifts to bante hain yaar..!!!!’ 😝😝 

But amidst all this celebration, have we all really thought about making this Christmas ‘merry’ for EVERYONE..???

So many children, shivering in the icy cold nights on the roads, but then too the warmth that keeps them alive is that of the hope that someday Santa Claus will come and gift them the love and happiness they crave for…!!!

So many parents, trying to shield their world, their child from the chilly winds and desperate hunger by giving them their share of clothes and food and praying to God that if not them, then at least put an end to their children’s sorrows. 

For these people, Christmas is not a celebration. It’s just another day of struggling for survival and another day of hoping that someday, things will change for better.

I feel, we can at least make their one day joyful, if not their whole life. Be their Santa, gift them the trinkets they deserve and need, wish them with love and care, celebrate with them and make their Christmas ‘merry’ in true sense. After all, we all are God’s children, and if we take care of our fellow brothers and sisters, God will definitely bless us.

So, this Christmas, don’t wait for Santa Claus, be one…!!!!

Once again, a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year…!!!

Spread love and stay blessed…!!!! ☺️