Posted in Experience, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Peace, Personality, Positivity, psychology, Random Thoughts, Self-satisfaction, values

What Is Life ?

Every philosophical text starts with a question – what is life ? And those texts have an answer mirroring to the author’s experiences and perceptions.

According to me, the answer to this question can never be subjective, universal, exact truth. Just like when we see ourselves in the lake, we see our own reflection, similarly, we answer this very common but deep question according to what we experience, what we feel and what we believe.

Everyone says, life begins in the womb. I think, life begins when our babbles turn into meaningful words, when our feet start touching the ground, when we start loving and hating, and most importantly, when our senses start feeling every touch, gaze, voice and emotion possibly existing in the whole universe.

To a child born with a silver spoon in its mouth, life is a mesmerizing merry-land where the whole universe does not have a single percentage of negativity. To a child who was born and brought-up on the road, life is a struggle-filled cobweb, with an unexpected catastrophe at every turn which challenges and applies the law of ‘survival of the fittest’.

I have always heard people saying that childhood is the most simple and happy period in anyone’s existence, without any complications, only embedding fun and frolic which is very true and believable. But just think, for a moment, about a child of a drunkard man who regularly beats his wife and the helpless child can do nothing but watch his mother’s wounds with tears in his eyes. Does that childhood looks as beautiful as this period is labelled to be ?

The second most generalized statement our ears are habitual of hearing is that, marriage means end of freedom and ‘fun-filled’ independent life. This too in some cases is right. But again, think about a prostitute, who was forced into this ruthless business, but who managed to elope with her lover, and finally her life-partner, slowly but steadily, healed all her mental wounds with love and care. Now does this marriage sounds miserable to you ?

We often hear our parents or grandparents saying that arranged marriages are better than love marriages. In many situations they are correct because they know better. But does this also apply to the marital rape victim whose love was snatched from her just to bind her with a beast who doesn’t even know how to respect the consent of a woman ?

We, the youth, always perceive that our parents are orthodox or backwards, who can never understand our lifestyle and challenges. Now, I can not disagree to this too. But what about those parents who supported their child’s dreams and wants, even  by going against the social norms ? Does this sound like orthodoxy ?

I can go on and on proving many such conceptions very shallow. There are thousands of exceptions, whether positive or negative. Do you know what all this contemplation brought me to ? Well, it brought me to a conclusion. It made me understand that nothing in this life has an exact definition. No one in this whole damn world has the power to confine life in a few words. Everyone just frames a definition and portray their own mind and call it life.

So, I just want to say to all my readers that never judge anyone’s way of living. You don’t know what they are going through. You can not define any situation or scenario of this life. Nor you can just force your perception on somebody and expect them to agree with it. Life is beautiful without judgement and generalization. Offer a helping hand and caring heart to everyone but if you can’t, then atleast do not judge and mock. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed !! πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡ 

Posted in Celebrations, Friendship, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Love, Memories, Peace, Positivity, psychology, relationships, values

Restraining Belt, Seat Belt or Friendship Belt…???

Hello readers, first of all wishing everyone a belated Happy Friendship Day. May our friendship last forever and ever…!!! ☺️☺️

You all must be thinking about this title. And no, it’s not a fashion article about belts..πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. In fact it is about the precious relationship between parents and children. We all love our families and in the end our families are the ones who stand by our side when no one else does. Now, this ‘standing by our side’ situation is a perfect one. And I think we know that this perfection is not often seen in reality. Many a times, family bonds suffocate us if not handled with care. As I have already mentioned in one of my previous articles that generation gap has a strong bridge if both the sides truly try. 

Well, in our knowledge, restraining belts are used in hospitals and medical care centres to control or completely restrict the movements of patients who are in need of such precautions. Sometimes, parents act as a restraining belt, when they are so strict that they want to control even the way their child breathes. Now, I can completely understand that they do so because they think that their child ‘needs’ this precaution to survive ahead. No parent in the world wants to see their child suffering or in depression. But, unfortunately and unknowingly, they push their children in the deep well of desperation and distress. The hard-boiled or orthodox parents, due to their perception of the world and denial to change that perception with the dynamics of world, confine their children’s dreams, actions, and life according to their wish. They think that without their guidance their child will get lost in the path of life which is already full of hurdles. And maybe sometimes they are right too. But is it right to strangle your child’s mind and heart without even considering what he or she wants ? I think not. There are some parents who control their children to prove their authority and power over them and that’s just unfortunate, but life is full of exceptions and this is one of them. But is there a solution to this layered problem ? The answer is yes. The band-aid to this wound is communication and understanding, and obviously, from both the sides. Only proper communication can give us the ticket to cross and fill this gap of differences.

Now, we all know what’s a seat belt is. It is for our safety, a precaution, but not a smothering one. Some parents, who are not conservative, but are very protective of their children act like seat belt. There is no major problem in this but one. Seat belt does delimit our movements, if not suffocate us. Parents have to understand that they can not always protect their children from each and every situation in life, and children have to understand that their parents are not controlling them to prove any authority but to protect them from the harsh realities. Once in a blue moon, this protection can confine the children in the pupa of love and care and when it’s time to face the outside world, their delicate wings break at the first strike. I agree that prevention is better than cure, but can you learn to swim without going inside the waters. I think not. These parents are not orthodox, they just can’t see their children in any kind of difficulty, which shows their unconditional and vast love and children should understand this. But folks, you have to accept that sometimes love means letting go and giving space. The key to solve this problem too lies in two-way communication, understanding and love.

And finally, a friendship belt. The most priced possessions in childhood and the most cherished ones after growing up. I think the best relationship any two people can have is friendship, and if it is between parents and children, well the relationship becomes perfect. I reckon that there is not a perfect definition of a friend. Well, according to me, a friend is someone who loves and care for you unconditionally, is with you in every highs and lows, applaudes for you at your accomplishments and can slap you at your stupidity and wrongs, and most importantly, with whom you can share anything and everything without the fear of being judged. The best friend you can have will be the combination of a teacher, a guide, a companion in your childish stupidities and a shoulder to lean on at difficult times. Now imagine, children getting all this in their parents and parents getting all this in their children. This is the perfect situation I was talking about. Friendship doesn’t binds or confines us, it just holds our hands and guide us through the rough terrain of life. There are no judgements or strict rules to follow. Friends let you be who you are. They never try to change you, they just help you to cope up with this cruel world. And yes, the most important thing which has to be understood by the kids in this scenario, friends never leave or hate each other due to minor differences, instead, they sit and talk like mature individuals and find a way to walk together. 

So, all the readers and fellow bloggers, celebrate this friendship day with your parents and children. Be a friend to them and see your life prosper beacause the best band we can ever get is a friendship band. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed…!!☺️☺️

Posted in Celebrations, Kindness, Love, Mothers, Positivity, relationships, values

Fathers’ Day – Is It Only For Fathers ???

First of all, wishing all my readers a very Happy Fathers’ Day. May we have the strength and blessings to fulfill all their dreams and cherish their oldage as they cherished our childhood.
Now, all of you must be thinking what’s with the title. Dont worry, I will break it to you.
Here is to celebrating this lovely occassion for all the mothers out there who are playing both the roles of a strong dad as well as a caring mum perfectly. Yes, you guessed it right, I am talking about all the single mothers across the world.
I just want to say something to the wonderful children of these strong and proud mothers. Guys, I know, no one can ever replace having the support, the confidence and the strength of a strong pillar beside you disguised as a father. But let me tell you something, your mum, is performing double role in your life’s play, just to fill that empty space, just to see you happy and satisfied. And to perform this role, she has to be strict yet understanding, strong yet caring, in a nutshell, hard yet soft. And this people, is not an easy task. She is doing everything she can so that you dont feel that something is missing from your life. So don’t you think that this effort should be given some recognition. I feel there is no need to answer this now.
Also, to the beings who are actually very lucky to have both your mum and dad in your life, please support the single motherhood. Don’t just stand there and criticize. You really dont know what these ladies are actually going through. If you can’t support then atleast don’t discourage. They are more strong then you see. Just put yourselves in their place and your heart will know how to react.

So, today I am requesting to all my readers, wish Happy Fathers’ Day to all the legendary ladies, our single mothers all over the world. Children, if you are lucky to have such a strong and loving mother-father duo played by your mum, make her feel special today. Make her smile like she has been making you smile all her life. This day is also for her.
Stay happy everyone and stay blessed !! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Posted in Beauty, Love, loyalty, Personality, psychology, relationships, self-respect, values

Your Date With Yourself !!Β 

First of all really sorry for not writing anything on the ‘so-called’ official day of love – Valentines Day. Wishing you all a belated Valentine’s Day. What I feel is every day is a Valentine’s Day if you are with ‘The One’. But those who are still searching for their someone special and also those who are madly in love, have you all ever thought on going on a date with yourself, falling in love with yourself ?
I personally believe, before falling for anyone else, we should all fall in love with ourselves. We can’t give something to someone if we don’t have it in us. That also goes for love. Now, we all are still confused about the pieces of words that can completely fit in the puzzle called love. Many people have many different ideas of what love exactly is and according to me love is care, understanding, honesty, friendship and acceptance. Therefore, what I want to say is, care about yourself, understand and accept yourself completely, always be honest with yourself and make you, your best friend. And my experience says, when you are 100% satisfied in your skin, you feel the sense of completeness. And that makes your love for someone else unconditional. You are not dependent on someone else to praise you, to support you, to understand you because, in the first place, you are there for yourself.

Now, how to go on a date with yourself. Well, just spend some quiet, alone time in a place you find serene. Connect with your soul and listen to that little inner voice that is always there with you. Do what you love the most and drown in the moment. And I promise you, this date will become one of the most beautiful and lovely experiences of your life.

When you are madly in love with yourself, then you can easily perform a very difficult task which is to love without expectations. I know, loving someone obviously seeds some expectations, but at least we will not hate ourselves when something goes wrong. We will know whether we were at fault or not because loving yourself also involves knowing yourself. If we will know and accept our wrongs, we will be able to rectify those, and if we know we are right, well, then, we can accept the situation and move on without any guilt in our heart.

So, all I want to say to my beautiful and handsome readers is, fall madly in love with yourself, date yourself. If you can love yourself for what you are,no one in the world can put you down. Your love for that ‘special someone’ will become unconditional which is the most beautiful trinket of love. Love yourself, spread love and stay blessed !! ☺️☺️

Posted in Beauty, Personality, psychology, self-respect, Uncategorized, values

Just A Pretty Face Or A Pretty Soul !!!

Every girl nowadays is crazy for makeup. Eyeshadows, eyeliners, compact, concealer, lipstick, lipgloss and what not. But this makeup is just for your face. Have you ever thought about the makeup for your soul and personality..???

Girls, here are 5 beauty hacks for making you beautiful inside out.. :

1. Smile ☺️
  
As we all say, smile is the best ornament anyone can wear. Your smile will automatically make your whole persona pleasant, attractive and yes, beautiful…☺️☺️

2. Confidence 😎
  
Confidence is the key to an impressive persona. Put on the confidence and you are ready to rock girl..!!

3. Values πŸ˜‡
  
Whatever may be the case, adhere to your values. Nothing is more important than a person having his/her own stand. It’s your life, live it your way, according to your values.

4. Don’t be a copycat 😺
  
Don’t imitate someone else’s ways of life just because they are popular. Be yourself. Have your own identity and own the world !!!

5. Don’t compare πŸ™…πŸ»
  
Everyone is unique and everyone has something special. Just know yourself and your strengths and weaknesses and respect yourself. Stay away from comparison and you will glow with positivity!!

Posted in compromise, loyalty, relationships, self-respect, values

Loyalty or Slavery….?????????

blog 8 In today’s modern world, relationships are very common among youth. Young love is flourishing and is on hike now-a-days. Youngsters have their first love when they have not even passed their school. I am not against it but love is not as simple and beautiful as it sounds. Like it is correctly said, every coin has two sides. And to handle the negative or the complex side of love, maturity is vital from both the people.

Being in a relationship, some unsaid and unheard expectations arise in both the persons involved. And if you both truly love each other, obviously both will try to fulfill those expectations. But this is positive only when these expectations are fair. We all have to understand that being in love doesn’t mean you have to lose your identity and principles. Of-course adjusting is a part and parcel of any relation but we should never compromise our self-respect and values for them. Remember, till the end, only your inner self can give you inner peace. Without this inner peace, even if you reach the zenith of success, you will never be satisfied. And this inner self will be at peace when it does not carry any guilt or grudges. Guilt crops up when we go against our values, whether for ourselves or for any other person.

Also, one thing which should never be forgotten for a happy life is that never trust anyone or anyhing blindly. If your partner actually loves you, he/she will respect your values and even appreciate you for not going against them. And if your partner leaves you for this petty issue of not obeying them blindly, then dear, understand that he/she never really loved you. You have someone better for you in your future.

Just remember, you are a lover, not a slave who is obligated to complete their each and every order. Maintaining your individuality in a relationship is very important for you and your self-respect. Never sacrifice it for anyone. Your true love will be with you no matter what. Don’t chase demons when you deserve an angel who will accept you with your values.

So, it’s my advice to all my readers that never ever compromise your self-respect. In a perfect relationship, companionship between emotional heart and logical mind is very important. Trust, but don’t trust blindly, because if it all ends badly then it can mentally destroy you. But yes, love also has a very beautiful side to it, if you handle it with maturity and care. Love yourself, be happy an spread love…:-) πŸ™‚