Posted in Celebrations, Friendship, happiness, Improvement, Kindness, Life, Love, Memories, Peace, Positivity, psychology, relationships, values

Restraining Belt, Seat Belt or Friendship Belt…???

Hello readers, first of all wishing everyone a belated Happy Friendship Day. May our friendship last forever and ever…!!! ☺️☺️

You all must be thinking about this title. And no, it’s not a fashion article about belts..😝😝😂😂. In fact it is about the precious relationship between parents and children. We all love our families and in the end our families are the ones who stand by our side when no one else does. Now, this ‘standing by our side’ situation is a perfect one. And I think we know that this perfection is not often seen in reality. Many a times, family bonds suffocate us if not handled with care. As I have already mentioned in one of my previous articles that generation gap has a strong bridge if both the sides truly try. 

Well, in our knowledge, restraining belts are used in hospitals and medical care centres to control or completely restrict the movements of patients who are in need of such precautions. Sometimes, parents act as a restraining belt, when they are so strict that they want to control even the way their child breathes. Now, I can completely understand that they do so because they think that their child ‘needs’ this precaution to survive ahead. No parent in the world wants to see their child suffering or in depression. But, unfortunately and unknowingly, they push their children in the deep well of desperation and distress. The hard-boiled or orthodox parents, due to their perception of the world and denial to change that perception with the dynamics of world, confine their children’s dreams, actions, and life according to their wish. They think that without their guidance their child will get lost in the path of life which is already full of hurdles. And maybe sometimes they are right too. But is it right to strangle your child’s mind and heart without even considering what he or she wants ? I think not. There are some parents who control their children to prove their authority and power over them and that’s just unfortunate, but life is full of exceptions and this is one of them. But is there a solution to this layered problem ? The answer is yes. The band-aid to this wound is communication and understanding, and obviously, from both the sides. Only proper communication can give us the ticket to cross and fill this gap of differences.

Now, we all know what’s a seat belt is. It is for our safety, a precaution, but not a smothering one. Some parents, who are not conservative, but are very protective of their children act like seat belt. There is no major problem in this but one. Seat belt does delimit our movements, if not suffocate us. Parents have to understand that they can not always protect their children from each and every situation in life, and children have to understand that their parents are not controlling them to prove any authority but to protect them from the harsh realities. Once in a blue moon, this protection can confine the children in the pupa of love and care and when it’s time to face the outside world, their delicate wings break at the first strike. I agree that prevention is better than cure, but can you learn to swim without going inside the waters. I think not. These parents are not orthodox, they just can’t see their children in any kind of difficulty, which shows their unconditional and vast love and children should understand this. But folks, you have to accept that sometimes love means letting go and giving space. The key to solve this problem too lies in two-way communication, understanding and love.

And finally, a friendship belt. The most priced possessions in childhood and the most cherished ones after growing up. I think the best relationship any two people can have is friendship, and if it is between parents and children, well the relationship becomes perfect. I reckon that there is not a perfect definition of a friend. Well, according to me, a friend is someone who loves and care for you unconditionally, is with you in every highs and lows, applaudes for you at your accomplishments and can slap you at your stupidity and wrongs, and most importantly, with whom you can share anything and everything without the fear of being judged. The best friend you can have will be the combination of a teacher, a guide, a companion in your childish stupidities and a shoulder to lean on at difficult times. Now imagine, children getting all this in their parents and parents getting all this in their children. This is the perfect situation I was talking about. Friendship doesn’t binds or confines us, it just holds our hands and guide us through the rough terrain of life. There are no judgements or strict rules to follow. Friends let you be who you are. They never try to change you, they just help you to cope up with this cruel world. And yes, the most important thing which has to be understood by the kids in this scenario, friends never leave or hate each other due to minor differences, instead, they sit and talk like mature individuals and find a way to walk together. 

So, all the readers and fellow bloggers, celebrate this friendship day with your parents and children. Be a friend to them and see your life prosper beacause the best band we can ever get is a friendship band. Be happy, spread love and stay blessed…!!☺️☺️

Posted in Celebrations, Kindness, Love, Mothers, Positivity, relationships, values

Fathers’ Day – Is It Only For Fathers ???

First of all, wishing all my readers a very Happy Fathers’ Day. May we have the strength and blessings to fulfill all their dreams and cherish their oldage as they cherished our childhood.
Now, all of you must be thinking what’s with the title. Dont worry, I will break it to you.
Here is to celebrating this lovely occassion for all the mothers out there who are playing both the roles of a strong dad as well as a caring mum perfectly. Yes, you guessed it right, I am talking about all the single mothers across the world.
I just want to say something to the wonderful children of these strong and proud mothers. Guys, I know, no one can ever replace having the support, the confidence and the strength of a strong pillar beside you disguised as a father. But let me tell you something, your mum, is performing double role in your life’s play, just to fill that empty space, just to see you happy and satisfied. And to perform this role, she has to be strict yet understanding, strong yet caring, in a nutshell, hard yet soft. And this people, is not an easy task. She is doing everything she can so that you dont feel that something is missing from your life. So don’t you think that this effort should be given some recognition. I feel there is no need to answer this now.
Also, to the beings who are actually very lucky to have both your mum and dad in your life, please support the single motherhood. Don’t just stand there and criticize. You really dont know what these ladies are actually going through. If you can’t support then atleast don’t discourage. They are more strong then you see. Just put yourselves in their place and your heart will know how to react.

So, today I am requesting to all my readers, wish Happy Fathers’ Day to all the legendary ladies, our single mothers all over the world. Children, if you are lucky to have such a strong and loving mother-father duo played by your mum, make her feel special today. Make her smile like she has been making you smile all her life. This day is also for her.
Stay happy everyone and stay blessed !! 🙂 🙂

Posted in Celebrations, Christmas, Holidays, Kindness, New Year

Merry Christmas!!!! Is it ‘merry’ for all…???

First of all, I would like to wish my all readers, a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year..!!!

Christmas, a festival of joy, happiness, celebrations and most importantly, Santa Claus and gifts. After all, it’s the birthday bash of the Holy Jesus Christ, so, in our language, ‘party and gifts to bante hain yaar..!!!!’ 😝😝 

But amidst all this celebration, have we all really thought about making this Christmas ‘merry’ for EVERYONE..???

So many children, shivering in the icy cold nights on the roads, but then too the warmth that keeps them alive is that of the hope that someday Santa Claus will come and gift them the love and happiness they crave for…!!!

So many parents, trying to shield their world, their child from the chilly winds and desperate hunger by giving them their share of clothes and food and praying to God that if not them, then at least put an end to their children’s sorrows. 

For these people, Christmas is not a celebration. It’s just another day of struggling for survival and another day of hoping that someday, things will change for better.

I feel, we can at least make their one day joyful, if not their whole life. Be their Santa, gift them the trinkets they deserve and need, wish them with love and care, celebrate with them and make their Christmas ‘merry’ in true sense. After all, we all are God’s children, and if we take care of our fellow brothers and sisters, God will definitely bless us.

So, this Christmas, don’t wait for Santa Claus, be one…!!!!

Once again, a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year…!!!

Spread love and stay blessed…!!!! ☺️

Posted in Celebrations, Christmas, Holidays, New Year

REMEMBERED DECEMBER !!!!!

December is the beautiful, snowy finale of the year. It is the month of hot cocoa and cold toes. Here is why we always cherish and remember our December.. 🙂

1. B’day Spree of The Holy Jesus Christ..!!🎉🎉🎊🎊

   
This is one of the most important celebrations of this month and, just accept it, some of us still wait for our Santa Claus.. 😜😜😝😝

2. Holidays (Ofcourse..!!) 😉😆😃😄😀

   
We all love holidays. Cold, lazy and cozy mornings without any work stress are a bliss..!! 😍 Spending time with family or oneself, holidays are the best trinket of the whole year..😃😃

3. Hot coffee, Cold mornings…😍😍☕️☕️🌨🌨

   
On the icy, chilled mornings, having a steamy cup of coffee or hot chocolate is like getting everything you can wish for. And if you have someone who serves this hot delight with a sprinkle of love, then it is the icing on the cake..!!😍😍☺️☺️

4. Snow Art 😄🌨☃

   
Fashioning our personal snowman companion is a personal favourite for many of us. And having your friends to help you shape your new friend could be the best time you spend of this nippy month 🌨🌨☃☃😃😃

5. Yayy..!! Survived another year..!!

   
When you realise it’s the end of year, the whole roller coaster of the gone year flashes before your eyes. And yes, we do feel accomplished because we survived every twist and turn we have gone through successfully..!!😃😃😄😄

6. Parties, Parties and Parties…!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎊🎊🎊🎊😃😃😃😃

   
Well, it’s the best month for all the party lovers out there. Whether is Thanksgiving, Christmas or the New Year bash, this month is full of parties and their preparations. So cheers to all party animals…🎉🎊😃

7. Gifts, Gifts and Gifts….!!!!🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁

    
Our loving family and friends should be given credits for this. Gifts are like cherry on the top of your celebrations. And admit it, we all love gifts…😉😉

8. Decorations…🎊🎀🎈

   
We all love the ornamentation our homes go through during this month. Decorating your own Christmas tree and garnishing your house by lighting is something we all enjoy 😄😄

9. Family Reunions 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👦👩‍👩‍👦‍👦👨‍👨‍👧👨‍👨‍👧‍👧👨‍👨‍👧‍👦👨‍👨‍👦‍👦👨‍👨‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👧👩‍👩‍👧👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👨‍👩‍👧‍👧👨‍👩‍👦‍👦👪

   
Whether we get time for family during the whole year or not, this the time you can almost guarantee that precious time with your near and dear ones..(unless you are very unlucky and get your holidays cancelled☹️😔)

10. So called ‘Resolutions’😝😂

   
Last but not the least, our New Year, New Me resolutions. Whether you adhere to your resolutions or not, making and declaring them is much fun…😂😂😃😃